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Best book I could have read

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I bought this book hoping that it could help my questions, but deep down not believeing it could. IT DID. All of them. I finally left my husband for good a year ago. I had already taken him back three times before and he always got worse, but this time I was determined to stay away. It's hard and I have managed to not go back, but was talking to him almost every week. I now understand everything that he has been doing to me the past 10 years and even now. It's hard to except that this person that you love, doesn't love you or his children he just want's to control you. I started reading this book new years eve and I made a commitment to myself to not talk with him anymore in anyway. Thank You Mr. Bancroft. Thank You for writing this book, Thank you for helping so many woman who don't understand why the men they love does this to them. I wish I could thank you in person. My wish is for all young girls and woman to read this before they or their children suffer anymore. Powell, TN

Applicable and practical eye opener

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I was surprised to see this book taken off the shelf. I have read a number of verbal/emotional abuse books and found this one to be the best, most honest one. When I first read it, I was shocked; it was as if someone read my mind and created a blueprint of all my experiences. He provides good observations and advice; I found 98% of his checklist to be on point in the relationship I was in, and followed his suggestions. It was the best advice and correct for my situation. Browsing through some of the lower ratings, I found a lot of nit-picking, embittered readers, readers with issues or some with different philosophical views. This is a MUST READ for every person- man or woman, to assess whether personal relationships are healthy or not.

Life changing

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I have never written a book review on Amazon before, but this book changed my life. I first read it 3 years ago and go back to as I need to to recenter myself. It is rather dog-eared. It helped me regain my trust and belief in myself, helped me feel less alone, gave me strength. It changed me from a victim to someone much more empowered not only in my marriage, but in other relationshps as well. It changed me in a very real way. By changing me, it actually helped change my marriage. I'm not saying I am now in a great marriage; it is highly unlikely that will ever happen, but reading this book has made it more manageable. I highly recommend reading this book. Thank you, Mr. Bancroft.

The best book I've read on this topic!

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This book is the absolute best book I have read on this subject. It is clear and has many "for instances". It has made my life easier to handle and made my situation not feel quite so isolated. I have and will continue to recommend this book.

even if you don't think you are in an abusive relationship...

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This should be a must read for all young people. This book was recommended to me by my abuse counseling facilitator. I was in an abusive relationship (emotional, psychological,physical) and it was so manipulative, I was really believing that his physical abuse was a direct result of my behavior (and by the way, i never criticized him about anything nor cheated on him ...[i know. the fact that i even feel that I need to put in that caveat shows that I'm still struggling...]). In fact, he had me convinced that *I* was abusing *him* even though he would scream at me and beat me.

I left because I started to seek guidance elsewhere (he was my sole source of information about anything) and after reading this book, has really opened my eyes.

I love how Bancroft says in the beginning that the abuser always tells you what to think so he wants to make it clear to think about the book on your own and come to your own decisions.

Easy to read - hard to put down. Main message: abuse is not an anger issue. It's about VALUES. NOTHING about anger.

Also, the info about traumatic bonding... wow.

So, if you have ANY suspicion - any little teeny tiny voice, or someone has said something, READ THIS BOOK. At the very least, you can toss it down and say, nah that's not him/her (he does address gay relationships). I say this because I think if I had read it a lot earlier, I would've left a lot earlier.